Recently, I've been having an issue with a very good friend of mine regarding a summer trip.
For the past two summers, we have been trying to plan a trip to the Wisconsin Dells for a particular museum she had wanted to go to. We had officially decided that we were going to go this summer.
Incidentally, this museum is something that Aaron's sister, Alyssa, would absolutely drool over, so we had also decided to just make it a girl's weekend trip. Alyssa invited one of her friends, and two of our other friends were also invited.
I created a Facebook message thread to keep track of everything. Everyone immediately confirmed that they were going, except her. This means 5 people confirmed. One entire car full, stuffed to the max.
So far, the 5 of us have been talking in the thread for about a month, and the things that have been decided are: when we're going, where we're staying, how much it will cost, what car we will take, what time we will leave....pretty much the whole trip. But the friend that this whole trip was essentially planned for in the first place has not contributed at all.
She has not said yay or nay to any of the decisions.
She has not responded to any messages, Facebook, text, voicemail, or otherwise.
She has not even confirmed whether she is going or not.
So here are the questions that have been nagging at me (since it was supposed to be her trip in the first place):
Is it safe to assume that she is not going?
Is it rude to go without her at this point?
Should we rearrange our transportation plans if she decides to get back to us two weeks before the trip (which is initially when we wanted everyone's head count)?
Does she deserve the benefit of the doubt at this point? Or is she just a lost cause?
I just don't want to seem like a complete and utter wench if the rest of us plan to go and then, last second, she magically regains way of communication long enough to tell us she wants to go. Because at that point, I'd want to tell her to drive herself, since everyone else had already been accounted for in regards to gas cost and such. Having to rearrange the car arrangements will be a pain in the ass, but I do want her to go.
I cannot decide what I want to do, and I would appreciate it if some of you would share your viewpoints... Thanks in advance.
